Operating Instructions for Wellbeing
Clarity and Wellbeing are ALWAYS present
If you are feeling anxious or depressed, wellbeing may seem entirely hidden. To hear that it is always present but simply veiled may seem like fairy tale. But it is an experientially accurate description that can be tested.
Myth: We believe getting what we want makes us happy. Believing this means we put all of our energy into the experience, relationship or object that seems associated with feeling a sense of wellbeing. Have you noticed that you/we do this?
Reality: When we get what we want we feel happy because for a little while we aren’t wanting anything other than what we have. For a brief moment we are Buddhas, content with the way things are.
Try noticing this for yourself. You’ll see that when you are happy, you aren’t trying to push something away or believing a thought that you need something in order to be happy.
Why it Matters: You can spend your life having brief moments of happiness after working hard to get what you want. Or you can learn to access the contentment that is always present and use the difficulties that arise as the beautiful compost that grows wellbeing.
How do we do that? We need to find our own “bridges” to wellbeing. We need to discover that there is already something in us which is totally content and totally accepting of our situation. We can access this and look at our lives from this wise and accepting perspective.
Accessing this clarity is true freedom. It feels good. It sees clearly. We know the next thing to do that isn’t driven by fear or by hurt or by automatic habits. Without access to this natural clarity (another word for happiness), we are stuck trying to make the world cooperate with our plans. Sometimes it does and often it doesn’t.
This is the rollercoaster ride of life. And like all rollercoasters, you can’t get off in the middle of the ride. This isn’t a problem if you have access to clarity and wellbeing. We can accept the ups and downs of life and “enjoy the ride” if we have the manual for accessing our everpresent wisdom.
If you want to work with me to figure out how to reliably access wellbeing or to address patterns that get in the way of it, please give me a call. This is my passion and expertise.
